The rate at which marriages/relationships collapse now is almost assuming an acceptable celebrity status in our society.
In few years time, people will be throwing divorce parties, invites will be sent out calling friends to celebrate their divorce anniversaries. Won a mu aso-ebi, hire a hall, won a pe musician....even a question like "..so when are you getting divorced?" will be commonplace.
If you know you can't handle the weight and pressure of marriage, please remain single.
If you don't know what marriage is all about, please remain single until you do.
If you are getting married because of the things you desire or hope to gain from the other person, or to satisfy your fantasies, please remain single.
Don't get married out of desperation because you think you are getting too old.
Don't just get married because of the pressure being mounted on you by your families. They are not the one getting married-you are!
You desire a successful home but your choice of friends are those whose marriages have collapsed. It is so simple- they'll make you drink from their poisoned chalice. Once that happens, your marriage is on a process of dying a slow death.
Be very mindful of where you go seeking for advices.
Guys, if you know you can't stay responsible please remain single until you mature. There's no way you can abandon the care of your family at the expense of your lifestyle. They are your priority and everything else including you comes last.
You are the teacher, the guide, the bodyguard, the spiritual leader, the role model- you are not a deity. Don't expect to be worshipped. You need respect, earn it by being responsible.
Ladies, if you know you can't be submissive please don't go into marriage ki won ma fi lilu ba ti e je.
If you know you can't stand being corrected, please marry yourself. Don't throw away your spinsterhood garment if you see respect as a big deal.
Please check your domestic scorecard - if your score is zero, please stay at your parent's home to learn before you venture on going out. Laziness is a big turn off.
There's no place for a woman who turns the house into a junkyard.
If you are just learning how to cut okro in your husband's house- na to say Major General don turn to recruit be dat o.
Marriage is not bread and butter; it is sweet and sour. It is not smooth-sailing; it is battling against storms and tempests. It is not a straight road; it's a road full of sharp bends and many unknown T-junctions.
Think about it: Most children that grew up in dysfunctional homes ended up to become society mis-fits.
Why do you think it's ok to create more problems for the society?
Why do you want to rush in to join the growing statistics of failed marriages? Why don't you take your time to get it right?
If you are presently in one that is not fully working, why don't you come down from your high horse and find out what it is you could have done differently. Be humble to learn and change instead of thinking the easiest way out is to find a replacement. The land is not greener somewhere else.
Marriage is the coming together of two rough edges. They have to be rigorously rubbed together until the edges are smooth and can run flawlessly.
This process create sparks, certain parts will fall off, they get reduced in size but the CORE remains.
If you can't bear to go through this process, please steer clear of marriage.
Don't fail before you start!
In few years time, people will be throwing divorce parties, invites will be sent out calling friends to celebrate their divorce anniversaries. Won a mu aso-ebi, hire a hall, won a pe musician....even a question like "..so when are you getting divorced?" will be commonplace.
If you know you can't handle the weight and pressure of marriage, please remain single.
If you don't know what marriage is all about, please remain single until you do.
If you are getting married because of the things you desire or hope to gain from the other person, or to satisfy your fantasies, please remain single.
Don't get married out of desperation because you think you are getting too old.
Don't just get married because of the pressure being mounted on you by your families. They are not the one getting married-you are!
You desire a successful home but your choice of friends are those whose marriages have collapsed. It is so simple- they'll make you drink from their poisoned chalice. Once that happens, your marriage is on a process of dying a slow death.
Be very mindful of where you go seeking for advices.
Guys, if you know you can't stay responsible please remain single until you mature. There's no way you can abandon the care of your family at the expense of your lifestyle. They are your priority and everything else including you comes last.
You are the teacher, the guide, the bodyguard, the spiritual leader, the role model- you are not a deity. Don't expect to be worshipped. You need respect, earn it by being responsible.
Ladies, if you know you can't be submissive please don't go into marriage ki won ma fi lilu ba ti e je.
If you know you can't stand being corrected, please marry yourself. Don't throw away your spinsterhood garment if you see respect as a big deal.
Please check your domestic scorecard - if your score is zero, please stay at your parent's home to learn before you venture on going out. Laziness is a big turn off.
There's no place for a woman who turns the house into a junkyard.
If you are just learning how to cut okro in your husband's house- na to say Major General don turn to recruit be dat o.
Marriage is not bread and butter; it is sweet and sour. It is not smooth-sailing; it is battling against storms and tempests. It is not a straight road; it's a road full of sharp bends and many unknown T-junctions.
Think about it: Most children that grew up in dysfunctional homes ended up to become society mis-fits.
Why do you think it's ok to create more problems for the society?
Why do you want to rush in to join the growing statistics of failed marriages? Why don't you take your time to get it right?
If you are presently in one that is not fully working, why don't you come down from your high horse and find out what it is you could have done differently. Be humble to learn and change instead of thinking the easiest way out is to find a replacement. The land is not greener somewhere else.
Marriage is the coming together of two rough edges. They have to be rigorously rubbed together until the edges are smooth and can run flawlessly.
This process create sparks, certain parts will fall off, they get reduced in size but the CORE remains.
If you can't bear to go through this process, please steer clear of marriage.
Don't fail before you start!
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