"Wón ní ká pa enu pò ká bá olè wí, èyín tun bu onínkan wípé ó se gbe síbè."
Blaming others is a behaviour we all picked up from our childhood whenever we wanted to escape punishment from parents at home or teachers in school. This behaviour sticks to us well into our adult lives, this time around we blame others to preserve our self-esteem and pride.
A lot of us do it. We blame others to feel good.
Blaming others is like drinking a slow poison. It destroys slowly and it has no cure.
This is how it works: Blaming others PREVENTS YOU FROM LEARNING AND GROWING.
Once you feel something is not your fault, then you don't see no reason to do anything differently. Which means, there is a high chance that you'll repeat the same mistake in the future that will result to more blame and more blame. This turns into a lifestyle that will one day end badly.
Not only is this behaviour capable of ruining you personally, it also destroys your relationships with people around because they can see through your dishonesty which you are trying to veil. This is a big turn-off!
You think taking the blame will make you weak and give others the chance to mess you about, but that's usually not the case. Taking responsibility actually gives you the strength to turn negative consequences into positive ones. Taking the blame for anything you are responsible for shows you are a strong character and not a coward. Only cowards hide! Once you have owned up to your fault, then everyoneelse are kept quiet because there's nothing more to say. Unlike when you are trying to be defensive which exposes you to further attacks.
Taking responsibity improves your credibility, increases learning, and solidifies relationships because people see you as trustworthy and sincere.
Taking responsibility transfers the energy which would have been used in playing the blame-game, to actually solve problems and become better.
Taking the blame does not mean you are weak.
Taking the blame does not mean you are a failure.
Taking the blame means you know that mistakes are part of life and only by accepting and learning from these mistakes can one grow.
Until you quit blaming others you can never learn and become better.
Blaming others is a behaviour we all picked up from our childhood whenever we wanted to escape punishment from parents at home or teachers in school. This behaviour sticks to us well into our adult lives, this time around we blame others to preserve our self-esteem and pride.
A lot of us do it. We blame others to feel good.
Blaming others is like drinking a slow poison. It destroys slowly and it has no cure.
This is how it works: Blaming others PREVENTS YOU FROM LEARNING AND GROWING.
Once you feel something is not your fault, then you don't see no reason to do anything differently. Which means, there is a high chance that you'll repeat the same mistake in the future that will result to more blame and more blame. This turns into a lifestyle that will one day end badly.
Not only is this behaviour capable of ruining you personally, it also destroys your relationships with people around because they can see through your dishonesty which you are trying to veil. This is a big turn-off!
You think taking the blame will make you weak and give others the chance to mess you about, but that's usually not the case. Taking responsibility actually gives you the strength to turn negative consequences into positive ones. Taking the blame for anything you are responsible for shows you are a strong character and not a coward. Only cowards hide! Once you have owned up to your fault, then everyoneelse are kept quiet because there's nothing more to say. Unlike when you are trying to be defensive which exposes you to further attacks.
Taking responsibity improves your credibility, increases learning, and solidifies relationships because people see you as trustworthy and sincere.
Taking responsibility transfers the energy which would have been used in playing the blame-game, to actually solve problems and become better.
Taking the blame does not mean you are weak.
Taking the blame does not mean you are a failure.
Taking the blame means you know that mistakes are part of life and only by accepting and learning from these mistakes can one grow.
Until you quit blaming others you can never learn and become better.
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