The Parable of Cane rat

Bi òkété bá dàgbà, omú omo re lo nmu.

Let's take note of these points:

(A) That the offsprings of the cane rat will not have the same boobies. While one will be flaunting FF, another will just be managing A. Often, this is by natural design not by choice.

(B) That their growth and body sizes will defer based on how much they were able to graze and other factors.

(C) The combination of these points will determine the amount of fluid they can produce for mother rat and others to feed off.

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1. If you have relatives abroad or even local who are sending you monthly stipends, please appreciate the little they are doing and pray that things be well with them to do more.

2. Making comparisons and tagging them as failures because what they offer still fall way below your expectation despite spending several years abroad, is nothing but callousness. Not everybody that's rich got it through the normal means, just like not every big bobbie is natural. Comparing those who are surviving through legitimate means with circumventors is wickedness. They can't produce same results. (Refer to A & C above).

3. Getting angry and cursing them for sending what is not enough to sort your financial predicament is not the best way to appreciate their kind hearts. They too are still LEAN. (Refer to B & C above)

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If however you think it's easy, you too go and collect 6 months visa, then come and use it to find work, sustain yourself, turn around the lives of everyone around you and turn it to indefinite leave.

If you think it's easy, you too go and collect 3 yrs student visa, then come and use it to work (with the restrictions), pay your fees, sustain yourself, build mansion at home, turn around the lives of everyone around you and turn it to indefinite leave.

Come and achieve these things under 10yrs- don't stand on a dry land and blame a sinking man for not knowing how to swim. Either believe when they tell you the water is deep and difficult to swim or you go in and test the depth yourself.

Many of your folks are here in mental facilities, some are placed on anti-depressants, some are in prison....all because of the pressure to meet expectations.

Don't assume anyone that's not meeting your expectation is tight-fisted or selfish. Some are just not at that comfort level you think they ought to be at because they have spent a decade abroad. It's not just all about the length of time spent abroad. Ojo lasan leyin nka, but irinajo yi o straightforward beyen o. So many things are involved. Gbogbo aso de ko la nsa l'oorun- It's not every story they can tell you.

Appeciate the little they do, encourage and give them time. Stop cursing and putting pressure on them to bite more than they can chew.

Even there are many people in Lagos who can't tell their folks where they work or how much they earn because of the fear of the weight of responsibility they'll be asked to bear.

E je ki omu omo okete mature.

AV