The Parable of Cane rat

Bi òkété bá dàgbà, omú omo re lo nmu.

Let's take note of these points:

(A) That the offsprings of the cane rat will not have the same boobies. While one will be flaunting FF, another will just be managing A. Often, this is by natural design not by choice.

(B) That their growth and body sizes will defer based on how much they were able to graze and other factors.

(C) The combination of these points will determine the amount of fluid they can produce for mother rat and others to feed off.

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1. If you have relatives abroad or even local who are sending you monthly stipends, please appreciate the little they are doing and pray that things be well with them to do more.

2. Making comparisons and tagging them as failures because what they offer still fall way below your expectation despite spending several years abroad, is nothing but callousness. Not everybody that's rich got it through the normal means, just like not every big bobbie is natural. Comparing those who are surviving through legitimate means with circumventors is wickedness. They can't produce same results. (Refer to A & C above).

3. Getting angry and cursing them for sending what is not enough to sort your financial predicament is not the best way to appreciate their kind hearts. They too are still LEAN. (Refer to B & C above)

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If however you think it's easy, you too go and collect 6 months visa, then come and use it to find work, sustain yourself, turn around the lives of everyone around you and turn it to indefinite leave.

If you think it's easy, you too go and collect 3 yrs student visa, then come and use it to work (with the restrictions), pay your fees, sustain yourself, build mansion at home, turn around the lives of everyone around you and turn it to indefinite leave.

Come and achieve these things under 10yrs- don't stand on a dry land and blame a sinking man for not knowing how to swim. Either believe when they tell you the water is deep and difficult to swim or you go in and test the depth yourself.

Many of your folks are here in mental facilities, some are placed on anti-depressants, some are in prison....all because of the pressure to meet expectations.

Don't assume anyone that's not meeting your expectation is tight-fisted or selfish. Some are just not at that comfort level you think they ought to be at because they have spent a decade abroad. It's not just all about the length of time spent abroad. Ojo lasan leyin nka, but irinajo yi o straightforward beyen o. So many things are involved. Gbogbo aso de ko la nsa l'oorun- It's not every story they can tell you.

Appeciate the little they do, encourage and give them time. Stop cursing and putting pressure on them to bite more than they can chew.

Even there are many people in Lagos who can't tell their folks where they work or how much they earn because of the fear of the weight of responsibility they'll be asked to bear.

E je ki omu omo okete mature.

AV

Leadership

The happiness of a land depends on the character of its rulers. The people cannot be happy and successful when their princes are childish, and lovers of pleasure.

Ecclesiastes10:16- Woe to thee, O land, when thy king is a child, and thy princes eat in the morning!

#DinoVsRemi

Understand God better

Even unbelievers who confidently ask from God, receive.
God is naturally a giver. He gives freely to all without requirement.
He gives to you like you deserve it, and He gives His best.
Your understanding of God is important in recieving from Him.
Approach God according to His word, not according to your experience or cultural background.

AV

Add Value

You are struggling to be their friend but they don't want you.
You are forming farmiliarity but they keep denouncing you publicly.
My friend, first go and make something out of your own life then wait and see if they'll not be the one to extend a hand of friendship to you.

This is wisdom. Stop forcing yourself on people while in your state of irrelevance. They'll see you as a liability. Nobody likes to carry extra baggages about.
Spend that energy and time on yourself to become relevant.  The value you have added to yourself will do the rest.

AV

Please download and install some sense

Our smart gadgets like mobile phones and tablets will remain only as fanciful bricks until we download and install some set of commands called Apps, to make them perform those smart functions.

Now, I want you to see those smart gadgets as our skull, and the App it requires as Sense.

E ma je ka ma gbe empty skull kiri mo. E download and install sense sinu e.

AV

LIBW

THIS IS LIFE IN BLACK & WHITE:

1. No matter how good a thing is, some people will still not like it simply because it has something to do with you.

2. No matter how good you are at what you do, some people will never give you their support because they don't just like you.

3. No matter how much  you suck at what you do, some people will support you with their last breath. They look but don't see your flaws. Their only concern is that you succeed, and they don't even mind if the support they give will make you more successful than them.

4. You won't get everybody to like you or what you do, but the more you get on your side the better.

5. Trying so much to make people like you is a waste of effort. Concentrate that effort on improving on what you do and making those who love you proud. Forget trying to convert those who have sworn not to have anything to do with you.

Bi oorun ba yo, awon peganpegan to si ma l'awon o ri wa. Iyen o de di oorun lowo lati ma ran.

AV

Me and Egbon

(Me and Egbon)

Egbon, I should get off at the next station but i'll go as far it takes to finish this discussion.
You are correct to say life gave us all equal 24hrs in a day, but that's in theory. In reality, some have 38hrs in a day, some 13hrs,...and some have just 8hrs.

E ni suru egbon, i'll explain. I call this the parable of the 24hrs.

Se ri, some people discovered that they have more to do than they can accommodate in their own 24hrs, so they approached people like you and I to buy some of our own hours. They buy 8hrs from you...buy 10hrs from another person....buy 6hrs from me and then add all these hours to their own. Egbon, once money changes hands or a promise to pay is agreed, those hours become theirs. They add It to their own 24hrs and deduct it from that of the seller. So ye yin de be yen?

OK. Now this is very important: Because time is a commodity that's highly dependent on its owner; iyen ni pe, when you give your time you also have to give yourself, the person you have sold part of your day's hours to will also need to get you physically to do whatever he wants to do. Se get me sir? This is why these 'time buyers' don't buy hours from just anybody. They make sure the person must have the necessary skills to use those hours PRODUCTIVELY for them to achieve whatever it is they want to achieve.

Egbon, when you are late or loafing about and they scream 'don't  waste my time', you have no right to complain. It is part of their day's hours that they want to MAXIMISE.
Egbon, when you have finished what you are asked only for them to add more, you can't complain sir because it's their day's hours won de lo bi won se fe.

So ye yin so far egbon?

Now e gbo eleyi. Not every hours of your day counts...even out of the remaining that you have not sold. The only hours that counts for you in your life time are those spent productively towards the pursuit of your goals, taking needed rest, and being around your family. The rest don't count and this is why you see that time goes quick and many have little or nothingn to show as achievements.

Egbon e calm down. I know we all sell part of our hours ....or waste it, and i'm not saying don't work again. My question is what value do you place on your time? E lo ni? And also, how do you maximise what is left?
While somebody sells each hour of his day In excess of £1000, another person engages in unproductive activities. This is what makes all the difference.

Ok egbon, let me conclude:
Spend your hours doing only what brings value to you. Focus your time solely on what you live for.
If you must sell your hours, charge what you know you deserve and don't be sorry for it.
If you must give your hours free to anyone, make sure they are those who appreciate and value what you are offering them.

My time which I have spent following you here, and which i'll spend to go back is not a waste because it was spent doing what I live for. I live to make impact, and feel fulfilled each time I do something as little as this.

Oja odaju n'ile aye, e de ni lati mo ná.

A ma rira later egbon. O dabo.

AV